Over the last few months, I’ve found myself day-dreaming about having a staff job.
I’ve imagined waking up each morning, logging onto Slack to gossip with a colleague. I thought about regular one-to-ones with a boss, I’ve even wanted to begrudgingly take part in a Zoom quiz on a Friday afternoon.
For the first time in my freelancing career, I want a real job. It’s a jarring feeling because I remember how I used to sit at my desk in an office job and daydream about working for myself.
Of course, what’s different this time around is the underlying reason why I want to change my circumstances. Back then, I wanted to leave traditional employment because I thought I’d find more fulfilment working for myself (as it happens, I did). Now, I’m really struggling to freelance because we’re (still) in the middle of a pandemic.
When I drill down to what it is about a staff job that’s calling to me, it’s not the promise of security. I’m under no illusion that I’d be safer economically if I sought out in-house employment. No, it’s that I really just want to be told what to do. I want a higher-up to tell me in corporate-speak that they’ve got a “roadmap” that’s going to get us out of this mess. I want a strategy, some kind of direction.
I also want to feel like I’m in this with others. I think about the time I was put at risk of redundancy in my first job. Sure, on the whole, that experience was awful, but I think about the times I spent with colleagues who knew exactly how I was feeling, commiserating in the pub or over a jacket potato in the canteen.
I realise it’s pretty off-brand for someone who’s built a career on freelancing to be talking about staff jobs. When the urge to start checking jobs boards started to creep in, the first thing I felt was shame. But regardless of whether your job is to fight for freelancers’ rights or not, all of us find ourselves justifying our work at some point or another.
I only have to look at the language I’m seeing freelancers (myself included) use when having these conversations. We talk about quitting freelancing to get a “real” job. Freelancing is a real job! And yet we find ourselves having to endlessly explain our work.
So it’s not surprising that a two-tiered work system emerges. As I’ve said many times before, you can’t compare freelancing to in-house positions because it’s not an either/or situation. Self-employment isn’t “better” than in-house work and vice versa.
So, it’s OK to want to go and get a staff job. Freelancing doesn’t have to be for life. It can be a season of your working life which serves you until you’re ready to move onto to something new. You don’t need to make an already precarious situation worse by shaming yourself for it.
As for me, I’m not planning on stopping freelancing anytime soon. But I have to remind myself that it’s more than fine to daydream about it.
Oomph. I feel this. I've had a couple moments where I've thought about getting a staff job. The initial pay would be higher, the comfort of (some) security would be nice. And I'd probably still freelance on the side but this time someone else would be paying for my health insurance.
Totally agree with you though on the comment that it triggers a sense of shame. Like am I less entrepreneurial for wanting a job even though I have a freelance business? No, but it can feel that way.
What seems to get me out of the funk is the excitement about building products. I realize that the execution-focused freelance work can be tiring. But building products, at least for me, seems to bring a renewed source of energy
"Freelancing doesn’t have to be for life. It can be a season of your working life which serves you until you’re ready to move onto to something new."
Anna, thank you for putting it like that. I went freelance late last year after a two-year corporate comms contract and I just needed a breather, some independence, and to test my journalistic skills. Alas, money isn't coming in and I am finding it very difficult to reach editors, BUT I now know exactly what I would want to do for a 9-5 (or part-time) so my energy is invested somewhere that isn't making me miserable. Ultimately, it's been a lot of tough lessons to learn and I feel silly and lost right now, but I am also selective in who I send my CV to, and that feels good. There is no risk of my accepting a position that's wrong for me.